It dawned on me suddenly right now that the people who are truly successful – who really do big things, make tons of money and enjoy huge successes (relative to their definition of success), have three things in common:
They know what they want to achieve and are clear on the steps they have to take in order to achieve it. There’s no wishy washy maybe kinda attitude to what they want. It’s clear. It makes sense. And it’s in flow with the flowiness of things that flow. They know what they want. ]
Do you have a clear plan for achieving your very clear goal?
They pump themselves up. They believe in themselves. They motivate themselves. They tell themselves they can do this. (And, as per point #1, they know what “this” is.) Think Jerry McGuire. Think the Wolf of Wall Street. There’s a high level of self-respect and self-knowing going on. Of course, this can veer towards arrogance in some people, but hey, nobody’s perfect. Again - their self-talk is positive and motivational.
Do you talk yourself up?
They work their asses off. They don’t work 8 hours a day. They do what needs to be done, for as long as it needs to be done, until it’s done. There’s no time for 2-day Netflix binges when there’s so much work to do.
Do you work at your goal, constantly?
Can you and do you look yourself in the mirror every morning, knowing what you want to achieve, and reaffirm to yourself that you can and will achieve it? “You can do this, Boooooiiii” or “you got this guurrrrrl”? Or like someone in my Toastmasters Club said recently - He looks at himself in the mirror every morning and says: “Jou Lekker Ding!” (For those not familiar with Afrikaans, this loosely translates to “You rock star”, or “You are the shit”.)
Know what you want and what has to happen to get it. Work very very hard to make those things happen. And communicate with yourself in a motivational, encouraging way. How hard can it be?
I’m thinking from now on, I want to try this thing, where I make sure I *always know what my goal is for the day/week/month/year/decade and I want to – every morning - slap myself on the ass while singing “you got this, you got this, you, you, you got this” and making meaningful eye contact with myself in the mirror”. I’m going to give it a bash.
Unless I have flu and PMS and I’ve run out of baking ingredients. In which case, my goal will probably be to lie down. (Is a 2-day Netflix binge ok then, do you think?)